5 Hard Choices Everyone Has to Make in Their Recovery

5 Hard Choices Everyone Has to Make in Their Recovery

There are a lot of hard choices I’ve had to make in my recovery. I was given a lot of suggestions in the beginning, and some of the things I was asked to do weren’t necessarily things I wanted to do. I did realize, however, that my own choices had landed me in rehab. Doing what I wanted to do wasn’t working out very well for me.

5 Hard Choices Everyone Has to Make in Their Recovery: Should I get help?

The first hard choice everyone has to make in their recovery is to decide to recover; to get help. I was miserable when I was using drugs and drinking, but it was familiar and comfortable. I didn’t know what to expect from sobriety. What’s that old saying?  Better the devil you know than the devil you don’t. It’s scary to make a change, even if you are very unhappy. I had kind of accepted the way my life was. In my mind, it was normal to be miserable or at least normal for me. It was scary to make a change.

5 Hard Choices Everyone Has to Make in Their Recovery: Should I go to a sober house?

One of the first hard choices I had to make after treatment was whether to go to a sober house or move back home. I knew I would have a better chance at recovery at a sober house, but I wasn’t looking forward to rules and a curfew. I did end up going to a sober house, and it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I made a lot of friends, had a lot of fun, and it kept me accountable during those early days of sobriety.

5 Hard Choices Everyone Has to Make in Their Recovery: Who should I ask to be my sponsor?

This is one of those hard choices everyone has to make in their recovery that isn’t actually that hard. I’ve seen people stress over who to ask, then they end up not having a sponsor for weeks on end. That can be dangerous. I think it’s important to ask someone who is working a good program, but beyond that it doesn’t really matter. Remember that your choice isn’t permanent. If you decide later on that you connect with someone else, you can always switch sponsors.

5 Hard Choices Everyone Has to Make in Their Recovery: Who do I hang out with?

When I first got into the rooms, people would always say “stick with the winners.” Not everyone I went to treatment with or lived with in the sober house stayed sober. In fact, most didn’t. It’s the sad reality of this disease: many relapse, few recover. The thing was, I really liked some of the people that relapsed. They were fun, and funny. But they weren’t doing the right things, and I knew it. I chose to surround myself with people who were doing the deal and working a program, because in the end, you are who you hang out with.

5 Hard Choices Everyone Has to Make in Their Recovery: When do I move out of the sober house?

If you make the choice to live in a sober house, eventually one of the hard choices everyone has to make in their recovery is when to move out. My advice? Don’t make this choice on your own. Ask your sponsor, ask your therapist, and ask the sober house manager.